We've all done it: given advice we don't follow. Taught principles we haven't integrated. Helped others while avoiding our own healing work. We say the right things, perform the right behaviors, adopt the proper language—while internally operating from a completely different place. This is what "fake it till you make it" really means: performing a version of wisdom we haven't genuinely embodied. And the cost isn't just personal—it's relational. When we teach before we've lear