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The Pitfalls of Choosing Sides


The pitfalls of choosing a side

From politics to business, relationships, and everyday decision-making, we are constantly pressured to choose a side. It's a pervasive binary mindset that dominates our world, and we've become so accustomed to it that we rarely question its validity and effectiveness. What if the push to choose a side is a trap that prevents us from unity and collaboration, and that the illusion of choice is preventing us from solving problems holistically and offering the balance and integration that our world so desperately needs?


The problem with choosing a side is that it creates an unnecessary divide between two opposing views. It's a win/lose, right/wrong, good/bad black-and-white mentality that fails to consider the often unseen or unexplored nuances of seemingly equal contexts. When we choose a side, we often become blind to the flaws in our argument and only seek to support our viewpoint—a dangerous flaw of the human ego, which we all share. This leads to attachment to our beliefs which causes us to lack objective thinking and, without our conscious awareness, prevents us from seeing the bigger picture and effective win/win solutions to even the most complex problems.


Moreover, taking a side often involves pride and a desire to be "right," which can lead to hostility towards those who hold a different opinion. This creates a breeding ground for conflict, as each side seeks to overpower the other rather than work towards a common goal. In doing so, we repeat the same old mistakes and never truly solve problems holistically.


To illustrate this concept, let's take the example of climate change. We know that climate change is a global issue that affects everyone on this planet. However, when it comes to taking action, we often find ourselves divided into two sides: those who believe it's anthropogenic and those who don't. This not only prevents us from adopting a comprehensive solution but also hampers progress altogether.


Instead of choosing a side, we need to adopt a more holistic approach by considering all viewpoints and potential solutions. We need to shift our mindset from "us vs. them" to "we're all in this together," recognizing that we all have a role to play in finding solutions to complex issues. We need to accept that there is no "right" solution, but rather a combination of approaches that can solve the root of the problem.


It takes courage and humility to embrace this approach. It requires letting go of our ego and accepting that we might not have all the answers. But by doing so, we unlock the power of collaboration and teamwork, which can bring about profound change. When we work together, we can examine the underlying causes of problems and craft comprehensive and sustainable solutions that are suitable for various contexts.


If you take anything away from this article, I hope that it is this: choosing a side is a trap that blinds us to potential solutions and keeps us stuck in a cycle of conflict.


It's time to shift our mindset towards a more holistic perspective, one that recognizes the shades of gray in between and seeks to bring together different viewpoints and solutions. We need to let go of our ego and embrace humility and collaboration, recognizing that we're all in this together. By doing so, we can create a world that solves problems holistically and works towards a brighter future for all.


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