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Holiday Parties: How to have fun with no regrets or embarrassment

Holiday parties can be a lot of fun, but they can also lead to embarrassing moments if we're not careful. Things like drinking too much, loosely sharing what's on our minds, or invading another's personal space can leave us feeling regretful and embarrassed the next day. But there are ways to have fun at holiday parties without any regrets. Here are a few tips:

Have respect for yourself and others.

While keeping others in mind, don't allow your own judgmental thoughts of what others might think of you to prevent you from enjoying yourself. This means that you don't have to drink alcohol or do anything that makes you uncomfortable. A steadfast rule of thumb is to reduce the chance of conflict or awkward conversation and avoid controversial topics like politics and religion.

Stay mindful of your drinking.

It can be easy to overdo it when celebrating, but doing so can lead to embarrassing moments and regrettable decisions. If you're going to drink, do so in moderation and make sure you have a way home safely arranged. You may also benefit from having a friend or colleague you trust to be kind and honest with you to tap you on the shoulder if you need to take a break and exchange your beverage for something non-alcoholic.

Practice emotional intelligence.

Part of having a great holiday party experience is being aware of how your actions and words might affect others. Pay attention to how your emotions may influence your behavior, and avoid saying or doing anything that could lead to an argument or awkward situation.

  • Keep your thoughts in check because they lead to how you react. For example, if you believe someone will treat you poorly, you may walk into the situation with your defenses up and unknowingly create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

  • Be mindful of how much you are talking in comparison to others. The 80/20 rule is a great rule of thumb— 80% listening, 20% talking.

  • Don't start or engage in gossip or drama.

Avoid putting yourself in risky situations.

If you know that you tend to make bad choices when you drink, either avoid holiday parties where alcohol will be served, stick with non-alcoholic beverages or have a sober buddy.

Don't force yourself to participate in things you don't want to do.

There will undoubtedly be some activities at the holiday party that doesn't appeal to you. Rather than forcing yourself to participate, find something else to do that sounds more fun or relaxing. You can always join in later if you change your mind.

If you easily become overstimulated by large groups of people, loud noise, or feeling pressured to socialize, it's okay to step away and sit on the sidelines. Don't allow the pressure to be social or the environment to cause you emotional distress. It's not worth it.

With a little extra mindfulness and emotional intelligence, holiday parties can be an enjoyable experience for everyone. Keep these tips in mind, and you'll be able to have fun with no regrets or embarrassment. Happy holiday partying!


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