A child struggles and, often, within seconds, an adult hovers nearby with a hint, a shortcut, or the answer. We hate to see kids struggle, and we hate feeling helpless ourselves. But in rescuing quickly, we may be taking away one of the most valuable emotional skills there is: the ability to stay with not knowing. Frustration tolerance is a skill Frustration tolerance is the capacity to feel discomfort, confusion, or failure without collapsing or bailing out. It underlies per