"Stressed" is not a single feeling. It can mean you're afraid, resentful, exhausted, ashamed, or grieving. Each calls for a different response, but the word leaves you nowhere to go except more coping. Psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett calls the ability to tell similar emotions apart emotional granularity. Her research suggests that emotions aren't reflexes triggered inside us. The brain builds them in the moment, using past experience to interpret bodily sensations and conte