There is a particular kind of disorientation that follows a major life rupture — the end of a marriage, the death of someone central to your life, a reinvention that was necessary but not chosen — and it rarely gets named accurately. We talk about grief, about adjustment, about starting over. What we talk about far less is the identity collapse that so often precedes any of that rebuilding: the strange, disorienting experience of no longer knowing who you are, because so much